I have a couple of clients that are currently going through similar stuff. They’re unrelated and in different parts of the country.
I decided to write this because I know they aren’t alone with this issue.
They both struggle with long-standing weight issues and all of the other things that come with it: inflammation, digestive issues, lab values that have been getting progressively worse over time…
They both got off to a great start, were motivated and saw great results.
Then they both started ghosting me.
Both of these gals are incredibly intelligent, capable, kind and deserving.
They don’t lack willpower and they’ve both accomplished pretty amazing things in their lives.
What I suspect they both have in common is that they’re buying into their stories.
Stories like: You can’t do this, you aren’t good enough, you aren’t worthy enough, this is never going to work, it’s never worked before, who the heck do you think you are…
Full disclosure, I’m guessing here because I’m not in their heads… but these are examples that I hear an awful lot.
They were both on the verge of making serious progress. The kind of progress that would mean that permanent change was actually possible and they’d have to rewrite that story.
That’s when the voices started getting very loud.
And they listened.
Like clockwork, things started happening; stress, drama and overwhelm got really high.
This makes me incredibly sad.
As someone on the outside looking in, it’s as clear as day that the stories are bullshit.
Both of these beautiful gals are more than capable and they were doing everything right.
We all have these voices, I call it the loop that plays on repeat in your mind.
Most of us don’t even notice it because it’s such a part of our incessant mental chatter.
So it turns out that the voices, also called saboteurs, hate change.
Their job is to maintain the status quo at all costs.
When you’re on the brink of making real change happen, the voices get really noisy.
Drama gets created, stress levels soar and the self-fulfilling prophesy gets cemented.
A self-fulfilling prophesy is defined as an expectation or belief that can influence your behaviours thereby causing the belief to come true.
In other words, you have a belief about how the future is going to go down, that leads you to behave in a certain way, that ultimately brings about the anticipated outcome. You can read some interesting stuff about it HERE.
To my amazing clients, I want to say that I’m not buying into the bullshit.
Take all of the time you need, I’ll be here when you’re ready.
You WILL make this happen.
Love Kim
P.S. Please share this with someone struggling with their own saboteurs